Sometimes people lead a secret, double life. The signs may be obvious. Other times, we just know by intuition.
Oma couldn’t help becoming friends with Michael who lived next door. He was intelligent and perceptive. It was easy to share triumphs and hopes, and have him meet family and friends.
He wanted intimacy. She didn’t and made it clear. He was in a relationship that seemed serious.
Why complicate things, right?
Oma stayed friends even after moving houses. Soon she discovered something odd with Michael’s new associations. They were not the usual and she wondered if he led a double life. What could they have in common? These were not the folks you had intellectual conversations with. They were more like people you would worry about if they were in your area. Well maybe he was just being nice, which would be endearing, if she could shake off the feeling that something was off.
One day, in a moment of anger, she let out a family secret. It was too late to take it back. She had let her emotions get the best of her. That sinking feeling of having made a terrible mistake was there again and within days, someone is kidnapped in her family.
‘I just knew.’ Oma insisted.
Some things may not be easy to prove. One just knows, right?
They pay the ransom and the family member is released unharmed. Nothing was quite the same between Oma and Michael. An invisible blanket hung heavily in the air. It would not go away and a long friendship ends.
Oma’s story offers lessons.
- Paying attention to one’s intuition is wise.
- We can hurt others with information we share with the wrong person.
- Our connections! Friends of a friend count and we should be paying attention.
We all have to trust someone sometime. Thankfully, our intuition or hunch can guide our choices.
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