Ashley Grey

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how to be amazing: the no shame uncommon life.

How to be amazing, live an uncommon life, and have no cause to be ashamed, is something isn’t it? Each day presents hopes as well as challenges! A preacher once remarked about a certain widow, who dismissed what she had by saying “I have nothing except this jar of oil.”  Well, guess what? That jar of oil multiplied. The best part was the averted shame and disgrace from lack. Want to read the full story here? Indeed, our thoughts and the glass through which we look matter. We can live our best lives in spite of our fears or crippling thoughts. In this post, I share a social worker’s perspective about living an uncommon life. Maybe we can learn to walk or stay on the path to the no BS, fulfilling life that we seek. Well, let’s get to it, shall we? A Fulfilled Life? “You only live once, but…

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Choose a good name.

A quote by George Carlin in Brain Droppings attests to the fact that a good name is desirable. There are women named Faith, Hope, Joy, and Prudence. Why not Despair, Guilt, Rage, and Grief? George Carlin Indeed, why not? Easy! Names stick and we want to get them right. Why bear the name “Despair” and not “Hope”? “Guilt” sounds depressing already, doesn’t it? SASH-T, sent in this account of a choice she made a few years ago. I imagine that it couldn’t have been an easy one to make.  Choosing right in the face of overwhelming situations is often, not convenient.  But she was rewarded as we will see. Her story, I hope, encourages someone who might be facing something similar. I share it below.        I was following up on my application for a job and this is what the then acting director hesitantly asked me. “Did…

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Authenticity is tough. Our fears, and need for acceptance, make it difficult to be our real selves sometimes. I wrote a cover letter some time ago. I felt a sample cover letter I found online was a good copy. Not quite. Looking back, I presented myself differently from my true personality. That was neither authentic nor my best self. authenticity is freshness. What does authenticity look like? Often, humans have the innate ability to spot originality and the inauthentic, don’t we? After all, they are as different as night from day.  So, I will say watch for when the goal is not people-pleasing because then uniqueness emerges. Uniqueness isn’t common, is it? Now I am reminded of stronger verbs and sentence structures. I will explain. Mary went to an evening class to find out if she could make her writing better.Mary attended an evening class to discover if she could…

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pretty toys in a toy store

See that pretty toy in a store full of toys? It sits pretty and hopeful that it will be selected from the lot. Taken out of the store to a new home, maybe?! Be relevant? Yeah! To give pleasant experiences to a child some day soon. Make a dream come true. That’s how the designer intended things to be. Yes? pretty toys in a store It needs a battery though. Little toys, big toys, not-so-big toys, batteries power them all. “For without me, you can do nothing.” We want to be powered, to remain relevant. Leave footprints on the sands of time. Feel content and rewarded. Note how the battery that powers the toy is often unseen? Yet, without this, the toy just sits, looking pretty but unfulfilled. The battery, the inner voice, the intuition, if you will, though unseen, keeps things running effortlessly. Almost!Isn’t this the ultimate experience? Autopilot…

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Dynamic, driven, achieving set goals and full of zest for living. Is there any other way to live? Simon amazed folks, great and small, with his magic. He was a rich and respected man in the community. Then one day, a certain Philip waltzed into town with a new and compelling message. Many including Simon, embraced this life-transforming message.  Philip and his company demonstrated so much power, that Simon followed them around. Eventually, drawn to the power, Simon offered money for some of it. Perhaps, he was thinking about the “good, old days” in which he’d captured hearts and purses through magic performances. Perhaps, he could go back and make money? Isn’t it in the heart where things really start? “Down, tiger! Your heart is all wrong. What we offer is free. Freely we received.” just about sums up the response he got.See, Simon’s heart had slipped to the old…

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Nelly’s dad was quite fond of saying, “don’t drive a willing horse to death.” Huh!? It didn’t make much sense to her. It did however, the older and wiser she got. At one time or another, we might have seen a horse handler breaking a horse or putting it under saddle. At first, it is tough. Eventually, the animal is ready and serves the owner on a farm or on the field. With a saddle safely in place, one can ride safely on the horse. But I digress. Now, the horse is malleable and willing, but you want to watch that you don’t ride it to exhaustion and death. There’s such a thing as a good thing being too much. That’s what Nelly’s dad meant by the expression. horse Like we see in the story of the prophet and a donkey, even a beast of burden has its breaking point.…

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Really this post should be about food, thoughts about food, but it is not. Instead it is about things to chew on and think about.  More a mental nourishment. Okay, maybe I can find a way to chip in something about food at the end. We’ll see! Sarah is one of a kind. Just give her a date and she can tell you what she was wearing, what she ate or did on that day. Genius! Blessed with a photographic memory. These are details we tend to forget because nothing eventful happened to trigger our brains to store and resuscitate such specifics. Have you met anyone like this? Hopefully, people like Sarah should inspire us to make an effort to recall names of people we have met, right? I mean, it’s the least we can do. Oh, the loud silence when we run into them and can’t make introductions! Experts,…

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All bark and no bite! Not a lot of power behind that, is there? I share Sam Kofi’s story and how he got bite. the bite Sam Kofi could never quite fit in. He was misjudged, mocked and labelled “different” and “strange”. For instance, he did not find jokes at the expense of others funny. What was funny about jokes at another’s expense, after all?!   Sam Kofi yearned to fit in. To be like everyone else. But, he soon encountered books and discovered a world of possibilities. He understood things about himself, picked up skills and learned from mistakes. He could create. Have bark and bite so to speak. Now different did not seem so sad anymore. He was solving problems and this made him happy. Eventually, he found he could earn from doing the things he loves. People would pay for his skills? That was a great feeling.…

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